{"id":1155,"date":"2017-11-15T10:01:00","date_gmt":"2017-11-15T10:01:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/selmaakcakaya.com.tr\/?p=1155"},"modified":"2022-07-03T10:09:30","modified_gmt":"2022-07-03T10:09:30","slug":"ben-yargilanmak-istemiyorum","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/selmaakcakaya.com.tr\/?p=1155","title":{"rendered":"BEN YARGILANMAK \u0130STEM\u0130YORUM!"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Yarg\u0131 TDK\u2019da; \u201c<em>d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnme, kavrama, kar\u015f\u0131la\u015ft\u0131rma, de\u011ferlendirme gibi yollara ba\u015fvurularak, ki\u015fi, durum ya da nesnelerin ele\u015ftirici bir bi\u00e7imde de\u011ferlendirilmesi<\/em>\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Yarg\u0131lamak ise &nbsp;TDK\u2019da; \u201c<em>herhangi bir kimse, \u015fey, konu vb.yle ilgili olumlu veya olumsuz g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015f belirtmek<\/em>\u201d olarak tan\u0131mlanmaktad\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u200bAsl\u0131nda yarg\u0131lanmak dedi\u011fimiz tan\u0131m\u0131n kendi k\u00fclt\u00fcr\u00fcm\u00fczde her zaman olumsuz olarak alg\u0131land\u0131\u011f\u0131 a\u015fikard\u0131r. Ne yaz\u0131k ki toplumun sosyolojik yap\u0131s\u0131 i\u00e7inde de bu \u015fekilde bir g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015f nesilden nesle yay\u0131lm\u0131\u015f ve kabul g\u00f6rm\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcr.&nbsp;Kimse kimse taraf\u0131ndan ele\u015ftirilmek istememektedir. Burada dikkat ederseniz t\u0131pk\u0131 \u201cyarg\u0131lamak\u201d kelimesinde oldu\u011fu gibi \u201cele\u015ftiri\u201d de olumsuz bir de\u011fere sahiptir bizim toplumuzda.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u200bGenel olarak insanlar\u0131n rahats\u0131z oldu\u011fu bir durumudur \u201cyarg\u0131lanmak\u201d. Yukar\u0131da da bahsetti\u011fim gibi bunu bu \u015fekilde kabul etmenin verdi\u011fi birtak\u0131m sorunlar da beraberinde bizimle b\u00fcy\u00fcmektedir. Sonu\u00e7 olarak ba\u015fkalar\u0131 taraf\u0131ndan s\u00fcrekli ele\u015ftirilen ve bir\u00e7ok konuda ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131z olaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnen varl\u0131klara d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015fmekteyiz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u200bHer insan \u00f6z\u00fcnde birbirinden farkl\u0131 ve e\u015fsizdir. Herkesin yeti\u015ftirilmesi, ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 co\u011frafya ve k\u00fclt\u00fcr ki\u015fili\u011fimizin olu\u015fumuna katk\u0131 sa\u011flayan ve bizim kim oldu\u011fumuzu belirleyen \u015feyler olarak ortaya \u00e7\u0131k\u0131yor. Her ne kadar bu ger\u00e7e\u011fi bilsek de, f\u00fctursuzca kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131zdakini yarg\u0131lamaktay\u0131z.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u200bYarg\u0131lamak, sadece kar\u015f\u0131ndaki ile ilgili bir durum de\u011fil maalesef. Asl\u0131nda yarg\u0131layan ki\u015fi, yarg\u0131lad\u0131\u011f\u0131 ki\u015fiden daha \u00e7ok kendisi hakk\u0131nda bir \u015feyler s\u00f6yler. Ger\u00e7ek \u015fu ki kar\u015f\u0131ndakinin zevki sizinkilerle ayn\u0131 olmayabilir. Kimse sizin gibi bakmak ve g\u00f6rmek zorunda da de\u011fil. Hatta kimse bir \u015feylerin onlar\u0131, sizi etkiledi\u011fi gibi etkilememesi de muhtemel bir ihtimal. Dolay\u0131s\u0131 ile bu bak\u0131\u015f size ait ve a\u011fz\u0131n\u0131zdan \u00e7\u0131kan \u015feyler \u00e7o\u011funlukla sizi yans\u0131tmakta. Ayr\u0131ca bu tutum ki\u015finin kendisini oldu\u011fu gibi sevmemesine de sebep olmakta. Ki\u015fi kabul g\u00f6rm\u00fcyor ve kendi duygu ve d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelerinin s\u00fcrekli ele\u015ftirilece\u011fi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncesi ile art\u0131k fikirlerini \u00f6zg\u00fcrce s\u00f6yleyemiyor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u200bBu s\u00f6z\u00fc seviyorum.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u200b\u201c<em>Benim ad\u0131m\u0131 biliyorsun, hikayemi de\u011fil. Ne yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131 duymu\u015fsundur ama benim ya\u015fad\u0131klar\u0131m\u0131 ya\u015famad\u0131n. Nerede oldu\u011fumu biliyorsun, ama nereye gitti\u011fimi bilmiyorsun. G\u00fcld\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fc g\u00f6r\u00fcyorsun, ama ne ac\u0131lar \u00e7ekti\u011fimi bilmiyorsun. O y\u00fczden sak\u0131n beni yarg\u0131lama.<\/em>\u201d \u2013 Anonim<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u200bSonu\u00e7 olarak kendini de\u011fersiz hisseden insanlar haline geliyoruz. \u0130nsanlar\u0131n arad\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u015fey ise kendini de\u011ferli hissetmek. Kendini yarg\u0131lamadan dinleyecek ki\u015filer ile birlikte olmak. Bu d\u00fcnyada tek ve biricik oldu\u011funu ona birinin hat\u0131rlatmas\u0131n\u0131 istemek.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u200bBunu ancak kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131zdakini derin dinledi\u011fimizde ve kendi de\u011ferlerimizden s\u0131yr\u0131larak dinledi\u011fimizde ger\u00e7ekle\u015ftirebiliriz. Sizin i\u00e7inizde var oldu\u011funa emin oldu\u011fum bu yetene\u011finizi geli\u015ftirmeniz, kendinizi ve asl\u0131nda t\u00fcm insanlar\u0131 daha iyi anlaman\u0131za ve dolay\u0131s\u0131 ile de kendinizi do\u011fru \u015fekilde anlatman\u0131za yard\u0131mc\u0131 olacakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Selma Ak\u00e7akaya\u201917<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Yarg\u0131 TDK\u2019da; \u201cd\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnme, kavrama, kar\u015f\u0131la\u015ft\u0131rma, de\u011ferlendirme gibi yollara ba\u015fvurularak, ki\u015fi, durum ya da nesnelerin ele\u015ftirici bir bi\u00e7imde de\u011ferlendirilmesi\u201d Yarg\u0131lamak ise &nbsp;TDK\u2019da; \u201cherhangi bir kimse, \u015fey, konu vb.yle ilgili olumlu veya olumsuz g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015f&hellip;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1155","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v27.5 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/product\/yoast-seo-wordpress\/ -->\n<title>BEN YARGILANMAK \u0130STEM\u0130YORUM! 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